Looking for God in all the wrong churches

When we got married, my husband I were going to a church that was incredible. Funny thing is, after our pastor went to a different position, we were left without a pastor. A committee was put into place to find a new one, but this took quite a bit of time.

In the meantime, the church grew. Some of the men took up positions of leadership, the fellowship grew, the missions grew...Obviously the hand of God was at work, the church was beyond anything I have ever experienced. Usually the Wednesday bible studies quit over the summer, but we kept meeting anyway for dinner, fellowship, games, growth.

Neither my husband nor I had been really active in the churches in the past...we became active in this one. I was doing the flowers in the santuary, helping with functions, doing background work. I took classes, and went through classes on teaching from the precept ministries. My husband wanted to teach, was attending weekly men's meetings with one group, participating in special events, going on weekend trips with the other men....His growth was incredible.

Then the pastor came...he ceased a lot of what was going on. My husband "asked" to teach 2 classes (this from a man who has never been comfortable in front)...he was told "I will get back to you on one"...the other...he brought in someone else to teach it! Eventually the friction in the church became such that quite a few of us were kicked out of the church. The hurt caused by this was incredible.

A friend of mine reminded me of the children of Isreal..."GIVE US A KING"...that is what we got.

We travelled from one church to another and finally "settled" with where we are at now. Never again did we find a church so alive...now this church is dying. I am at a loss as to where to go. I see to many of our churches swayed by PC correct attitudes (God is not politcally correct and never will be). Excuse my while I scream. Coffee houses in them (I think of Jesus dumping tables in the tabernacle). Teachings that all seem to be "feel good" soft sermons that don't teach the reality of hell. Where do I find a church that grasps the same theology I do???

The pastor of our current church asked what the difference was and at the time I could not tell him. This saturday, I actually found myself dreading going to church. There are no other homeschoolers there, the only activities are for the Seniors, the only people close to my age are the pastor and his wife, the rest are filled mostly with seniors. There is no longer a youth group leader, and politics ohhh politics..the body of the church are predominatly liberal...I am super conservative.

It is also predominatly seniors...this does not have to be a bad thing, its just that they try to stop any changes needed. They are in their comfort zone and want it to stay that way...there are no new disciples being raised up.

When we first started there, there were a few kids, now my 4th grader is in a class by himself. My younger two are in together, with 3 other kids. I am all for small groups, but this seems to small. (their teachers there are fantasic tho')

I started surfing the web, looking for answers...the problems with the churches here...they are all run by women. One site has a wonderful "motto" regarding the mens group "IT STARTS WITH THE MEN".

In the meantime, my husband is now backsliding, and of course, he takes us with him.


Well, we are still seeking answers...where are we suppose to be?